{"id":7208,"date":"2026-01-12T16:18:24","date_gmt":"2026-01-12T16:18:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ornbardur.com\/2026\/01\/12\/feminisminn-undir-smasja-konu\/"},"modified":"2026-01-12T16:18:24","modified_gmt":"2026-01-12T16:18:24","slug":"feminisminn-undir-smasja-konu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ornbardur.com\/?p=7208","title":{"rendered":"Feminisminn undir sm\u00e1sj\u00e1 konu"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Er \u00ed lagi a\u00f0 gagnr\u00fdna feminismann?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sett h\u00e9r inn til a\u00f0 kynna \u00feessi sj\u00f3narhorn Carrie Gress \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00e9g taki endilega undir \u00feau \u00f6ll, en hins vegar hefur feminisminn fengi\u00f0 n\u00e1nast fr\u00edtt spil \u00e1n mikillar gagnr\u00fdni undanfarna \u00e1ratugi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vi\u00f0tal hins virta v\u00edsindamanns, ge\u00f0l\u00e6knis og s\u00e9rfr\u00e6\u00f0ings \u00ed ranns\u00f3knum \u00e1 heilahvelum manna, Iain McGilchrist vi\u00f0 Carrie Gress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00de\u00fdtt me\u00f0 Google translate sem m\u00e6tti lagf\u00e6ra og sl\u00edpa en gefur samt s\u00fdn \u00e1 sko\u00f0anir Gress. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">ENSKI TEXTINN ER NE\u00d0ANM\u00c1LS.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"720\" height=\"714\" src=\"http:\/\/localhost:8081\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/img_0669.jpg?w=720\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-7207\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Carrie Gress<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Carrie Gress er me\u00f0 doktorsgr\u00e1\u00f0u fr\u00e1 Ka\u00fe\u00f3lska h\u00e1sk\u00f3lanum \u00ed Amer\u00edku og er kennari vi\u00f0 Pontifex-h\u00e1sk\u00f3la. Ritverk hennar hafa birst \u00ed Aleteia, Catholic Vote, Catholic World Report, The National Catholic Register, New Advent, Real Clear Religion, Reddit, Zenit, EWTN Radio, Relevant Radio, BBC og CBC sj\u00f3nvarpsst\u00f6\u00f0vum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Smelltu \u00e1 fyrirs\u00f6gnina til a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 vi\u00f0tali\u00f0 \u00ed heild.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Viltu hlusta? H\u00e9r er upptakan: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls src=\"https:\/\/pub-c849b6aaf98340c4bec7b480b0f7ffe9.r2.dev\/2026\/01\/feminisminn-undir-smasja-konu.m4a\"><\/audio><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Iain McGilchrist:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c9g haf\u00f0i \u00feann hei\u00f0ur a\u00f0 f\u00e1 a\u00f0 lesa n\u00fdju b\u00f3kina eftir Carrie Gress fyrir \u00fatg\u00e1fu (h\u00fan ver\u00f0ur a\u00f0gengileg almenningi fr\u00e1 20. jan\u00faar 2026). M\u00e9r fannst h\u00fan \u00e1hugaver\u00f0 og l\u00e6r\u00f0i miki\u00f0 af henni. \u00deanga\u00f0 til n\u00fdlega var fem\u00ednismi ein af m\u00f6rgum umdeildum kenningum, sem deilur voru ekki leyf\u00f0ar um. S\u00e1 sem ekki veitti hugsunarlaust og skilyr\u00f0islaust sam\u00feykki fyrir hva\u00f0a formi sem hann t\u00f3k \u00e1 sig \u2013 og kr\u00f6fur hans hafa e\u00f0lilega, eins og me\u00f0 allar sl\u00edkar hreyfingar, or\u00f0i\u00f0 s\u00edfellt \u00e1gengari \u2013 var handan vi\u00f0 m\u00e6rin. \u00dea\u00f0 er n\u00fa a\u00f0 breytast og \u00feessi b\u00f3k \u00e1 skili\u00f0 a\u00f0 vera v\u00ed\u00f0a lesin. Hvort sem \u00fe\u00fa ert samm\u00e1la henni e\u00f0a ekki, \u00fe\u00e1 vekur h\u00fan upp mikilv\u00e6gar spurningar sem ekki er h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 hunsa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c9g t\u00f3k vi\u00f0tal vi\u00f0 hana fyrir  bloggs\u00ed\u00f0una The Matter With Things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br \/><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: Carrie, m\u00e9r fannst b\u00f3kin \u00fe\u00edn Something Wicked, (Eitthva\u00f0  illt, eitthva\u00f0 rangt) b\u00e6\u00f0i \u00f6flug og vitur. Gagnr\u00fdnin afsta\u00f0a \u00fe\u00edn til fem\u00ednisma er \u00f6rt a\u00f0 n\u00e1 f\u00f3tfestu, eins og vi\u00f0t\u00f6kurnar fyrir \u00fatg\u00e1fu b\u00f3karinnar benda til, en er samt \u00f3venjuleg. Getur\u00f0u sagt okkur hva\u00f0 hvatti \u00feig til a\u00f0 skrifa \u00feessa b\u00f3k?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS<\/strong>: Sem betur fer eru \u00feessar hugmyndir a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a vins\u00e6lar, s\u00e9rstaklega \u00ed samanbur\u00f0i vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00e9g ger\u00f0i fyrir t\u00edu \u00e1rum \u00feegar \u00e9g byrja\u00f0i a\u00f0 skrifa um \u00feetta efni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00dea\u00f0 voru nokkrar \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0ur fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g skrifa\u00f0i \u00feessa b\u00f3k. S\u00fa fyrsta er auglj\u00f3s \u00feegar ma\u00f0ur l\u00edtur \u00ed kringum sig \u00e1 konur \u00ed dag og s\u00e9r dj\u00fapst\u00e6\u00f0an ska\u00f0a sem fem\u00ednismi hefur valdi\u00f0. Vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1um hann \u00ed ofbeldi, brotnu f\u00f3lki, str\u00ed\u00f0i milli kynjanna, ge\u00f0sj\u00fakd\u00f3mum og svo framvegis. \u00deetta eru sl\u00e6mir \u00e1vextir hans, n\u00e1tt\u00faruleg framvinda afmynda\u00f0rar og brengla\u00f0rar hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00e1nar tilteki\u00f0 skrifa\u00f0i \u00e9g \u00feessa b\u00f3k vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 kristni b\u00fd\u00f0ur upp \u00e1 m\u00f3tefni vi\u00f0 fem\u00edn\u00edskri hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0i, \u00fe\u00f3 a\u00f0 margir innan kirkjunnar hafi fari\u00f0 a\u00f0 tr\u00faa \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00feetta tvennt geti einhvern veginn veri\u00f0 samh\u00e6ft. Reyndar hefur r\u00edkjandi tr\u00fa margra ka\u00fe\u00f3likka og m\u00f3tm\u00e6lenda veri\u00f0 s\u00fa a\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 sam\u00fe\u00e6tta tungum\u00e1l fem\u00ednismans \u00ed samf\u00e9l\u00f6gum okkar munum vi\u00f0 anna\u00f0 hvort la\u00f0a a\u00f0 e\u00f0a sn\u00faa fem\u00ednistum til tr\u00faar og jafnframt hj\u00e1lpa okkar eigin konum. Ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0urnar hafa hins vegar veri\u00f0 \u00fever\u00f6fugar. Fem\u00ednismi hefur smita\u00f0 kristnina og s\u00e1\u00f0 dj\u00fapum ruglingi um kvenleika, hj\u00f3naband, fj\u00f6lskyldu, b\u00f6rn og kynhneig\u00f0. Fem\u00ednismi hefur hins vegar a\u00f0 mestu veri\u00f0 l\u00e1tinn \u00f3rannsaka\u00f0ur og \u00f3breyttur, jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt hann spilli kerfisbundi\u00f0 einni fj\u00f6lskyldu e\u00f0a einu tr\u00faarsamf\u00e9lagi \u00ed einu. \u00dea\u00f0 sem hefur getu til a\u00f0 sk\u00fdra og \u00fatr\u00fdma fem\u00edn\u00edskri hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0i \u2013 sannleikur kristninnar \u2013 hefur veri\u00f0 \u00feagga\u00f0ur ni\u00f0ur og kirkjan hefur veri\u00f0 r\u00e6nd til a\u00f0 dreifa dj\u00fapst\u00e6tt andkristinni hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0i. \u00deessi b\u00f3k varpar \u00fev\u00ed lj\u00f3si \u00e1 hvers vegna \u00feetta tvennt er dj\u00fapst\u00e6tt \u00f3samr\u00fdmanlegt heimspekilega og gu\u00f0fr\u00e6\u00f0ilega.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: Hva\u00f0 myndir \u00fe\u00fa segja vi\u00f0 f\u00f3lk sem segir a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 komi ekki \u00e1 \u00f3vart a\u00f0 fem\u00ednismi og kristni stangist \u00e1, \u00fear e\u00f0 kristni feli \u00ed s\u00e9r \u00farelt si\u00f0fer\u00f0i?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS<\/strong>: \u00cd aldara\u00f0ir hafa Vesturl\u00f6nd leiki\u00f0 s\u00e9r me\u00f0 fj\u00f6lbreytt \u00farval vinstri sinna\u00f0ra og \u00fat\u00f3p\u00edskra hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0a til a\u00f0 umbreyta manninum \u00ed eitthva\u00f0 sem kristnin \u00feekkir ekki. Fem\u00ednismi er \u00ed grundvallaratri\u00f0um bara \u00f6nnur brag\u00f0tegund af \u00feessari gu\u00f0lausu jafnr\u00e9ttisstefnu. Ni\u00f0ursta\u00f0an hefur veri\u00f0 s\u00fa a\u00f0 konur eru dj\u00fapt \u00f3hamingjusamar, sem s\u00e9st af m\u00e6lingum \u00e1 hamingju, svo sem aukinni skilna\u00f0art\u00ed\u00f0ni, sj\u00e1lfsv\u00edgum, \u00feunglyndi og v\u00edmuefnaneyslu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00dea\u00f0 er merkilegt a\u00f0 \u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir allar \u00fe\u00e6r framfarir sem fem\u00ednismi \u00e1tti a\u00f0 hafa \u00ed f\u00f6r me\u00f0 s\u00e9r, \u00fe\u00e1 eru grundvallarkvartanir fyrstu fylgjenda hans enn \u00e1leitnar: karlar hafa ekki veri\u00f0 ger\u00f0ir betri; konur hafa ekki veri\u00f0 vernda\u00f0ar fyrir ofbeldi n\u00e9 hafa \u00fe\u00e6r or\u00f0i\u00f0 dygg\u00f0ugri, k\u00e6rleiksr\u00edkari e\u00f0a g\u00f3\u00f0gjarnari; b\u00f6rn eru ekki meir vi\u00f0urkennd og \u00feeim ekki betur sinnt. Vissulega voru breytingar \u00e1 l\u00f6gum og stefnu mikilv\u00e6gar, en fem\u00ednismi er hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0i sem er bundin vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 hugmynd a\u00f0 konur ver\u00f0i hamingjusamari \u00fev\u00ed l\u00edkari sem \u00fe\u00e6r ver\u00f0i k\u00f6rlum. Fem\u00ednismi hefur alla t\u00ed\u00f0 veri\u00f0 rangt lyf vi\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed sem hrj\u00e1ir konur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">N\u00fa \u00feegar allir valkostir kristni vir\u00f0ast hafa veri\u00f0 reyndir, horfa margir til fort\u00ed\u00f0arinnar til a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 hva\u00f0 hefur getu til a\u00f0 mynda bl\u00f3mleg samf\u00e9l\u00f6g. Dusta\u00f0 hefur veri\u00f0 af g\u00f6mlum h\u00e1ttum, sem lengi voru taldir hj\u00e1tr\u00faarfullir, veikir e\u00f0a afturhaldssamir, og \u00feeir sko\u00f0a\u00f0ir upp \u00e1 n\u00fdtt. Hva\u00f0 ef \u00fea\u00f0 skyldi n\u00fa vera eitthva\u00f0 mikilv\u00e6gt \u00ed kristninni eftir allt saman? \u00dea\u00f0 hefur \u00ed raun ekkert veri\u00f0 \u00f6flugra fyrir konur en kristnin, vegna \u00feess hvernig h\u00fan veitti konum jafna reisn og kollvarpa\u00f0i miskunnarlausu, hei\u00f0nu si\u00f0fer\u00f0i, \u00fear sem konur voru annars eign. Vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1um hei\u00f0ni koma upp aftur \u00ed dag eins og h\u00fan gerir alltaf \u00feegar kristnin dv\u00ednar \u2013 hlutir sem vi\u00f0 hef\u00f0um varla geta\u00f0 \u00edmynda\u00f0 okkur fyrir tveimur e\u00f0a \u00feremur \u00e1ratugum eru n\u00fa a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a algengir, eins og al\u00fej\u00f3\u00f0leg kynl\u00edfs\u00fer\u00e6laverslun, sem beinist s\u00e9rstaklega a\u00f0 konum og b\u00f6rnum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: M\u00e9r finnst eins og \u00e1 okkar t\u00edmum s\u00e9 str\u00ed\u00f0 \u00e1 hendur l\u00edkamanum og n\u00e1tt\u00farunni. Sem hluti af \u00feessu erum vi\u00f0 n\u00fa hv\u00f6tt til a\u00f0 hunsa hlutverk l\u00edffr\u00e6\u00f0ilegra erf\u00f0a og l\u00e1ta eins og veruleikinn s\u00e9 \u00fea\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 viljum gera hann a\u00f0, \u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir auglj\u00f3san skort \u00e1 s\u00f6nnunarg\u00f6gnum fyrir sl\u00edkri hugmynd. Allt er sagt vera einungis afur\u00f0 f\u00e9lagslegrar skilyr\u00f0ingar. Vi\u00f0 erum, e\u00f0a \u00e6ttum a\u00f0 vera, \u201efrj\u00e1ls\u201c, er sagt, eins og hugmyndin um frelsi h\u00e9r v\u00e6ri gegns\u00e6tt. Lei\u00f0ir holdgerving \u00feessara hugmynda til frelsis e\u00f0a takm\u00f6rkunar \u00e1 mannlegu \u00e1standi? Au\u00f0vita\u00f0 eru margar takmarkanir \u00e1 okkur \u00f6llum. V\u00e6ri betra ef \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ru \u00ed raun engar takmarkanir? Vi\u00f0 vanr\u00e6kjum hlutverk marka sem eru grundvallandi fyrir allt raunverulegt frelsi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS<\/strong>: Ein af m\u00ednum upp\u00e1halds lei\u00f0um til a\u00f0 hugsa um \u00feessa spurningu er a\u00f0 frelsi og mannlegt e\u00f0li kemur fr\u00e1 \u00ed\u00fer\u00f3ttum. Ef \u00fe\u00fa tekur burt tennisneti\u00f0 og v\u00f6llinn, \u00fe\u00e1 er enginn tennisleikur lengur. Neti\u00f0 og v\u00f6llurinn (og samsvarandi reglur um \u00feau) skapa m\u00f6rk \u00fear sem leikurinn lifna vi\u00f0. A\u00f0 sl\u00e1 tennisbolta einfaldlega \u00e1 opinni grasfl\u00f6t getur aldrei veitt s\u00f6mu spennu og \u00feegar leikurinn er spila\u00f0ur r\u00e9tt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c1 sama h\u00e1tt setur mannlegt e\u00f0li m\u00f6rk fyrir bl\u00f3mgun mannsins, m\u00f6rk sem koma fr\u00e1 mannlegu e\u00f0li okkar &#8211; b\u00e6\u00f0i sem skynsamlegu og l\u00edkamlegu &#8211; og fr\u00e1 \u00feeim hlutverkum sem n\u00e1tt\u00farulega spretta af \u00fev\u00ed e\u00f0li. \u00deessi m\u00f6rk eru ekki bara samf\u00e9lagslegar skor\u00f0ur e\u00f0a f\u00e9lagslegar hugmyndir. \u00c9g get ekki \u00edmynda\u00f0 m\u00e9r a\u00f0 nokkur heilbrig\u00f0 manneskja myndi segja, til d\u00e6mis, a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 afnema m\u00f6rk, s\u00e9rstaklega kynfer\u00f0isleg m\u00f6rk eins og  gegn barnan\u00ed\u00f0i og mansali, v\u00e6ri frelsandi e\u00f0a gott.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fem\u00ednismi er dj\u00fapt r\u00f3tgr\u00f3inn \u00ed str\u00ed\u00f0i vi\u00f0 n\u00e1tt\u00faruna. Okkur er sagt a\u00f0 berjast gegn eigin l\u00edkama, byrjandi \u00e1 frj\u00f3semi okkar. Vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 l\u00edffr\u00e6\u00f0i okkar gerir okkur n\u00e1tt\u00farulega vi\u00f0kv\u00e6m, teljum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 ver\u00f0um hamingjusamari ef vi\u00f0 getum a\u00f0eins veri\u00f0 l\u00edkari k\u00f6rlum. \u00deessi fjandsamlega tr\u00fa hefur, r\u00f6kr\u00e9tt, n\u00e1\u00f0 til kynbreytinga.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: \u00der\u00f3unarkenningin er vark\u00e1rari gagnvart konum en k\u00f6rlum: h\u00fan tekur meiri \u00e1h\u00e6ttu me\u00f0 karlkyns svipger\u00f0 en konu, \u00fear sem, hva\u00f0 var\u00f0ar framgang tegundarinnar, eru karlar meira ey\u00f0slusamir en konur. (\u00deetta liggur a\u00f0 baki fyrirb\u00e6ri sem kallast \u201emeiri breytileiki karla\u201c.) Konur eru mikilv\u00e6gari fyrir \u00feroska ungs f\u00f3lks, a\u00f0 minnsta kosti \u00e1 fyrstu stigum, \u00ed \u00f6rugga, vel f\u00e9lagsm\u00f3ta\u00f0a fullor\u00f0na einstaklinga. Konur eru a\u00f0 mestu leyti mi\u00f0larar f\u00e9lagslegrar samheldni. \u00cd fornensku \u00fe\u00fdddi or\u00f0i\u00f0 fyrir konu \u201everndari fri\u00f0arins\u201c. Hvers vegna er \u00feetta ekki meti\u00f0 r\u00e9ttilega?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M\u00e9r finnst \u00feetta tengjast heimi \u00fear sem hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0i kap\u00edtalismans e\u00f0a komm\u00fanismans \u2013 b\u00e1\u00f0ar stefnur eru sekar \u2013 eru \u00f3beisla\u00f0ar. \u00cd b\u00e1\u00f0um \u201ekerfum\u201c eru konur taldar leggja ekkert af m\u00f6rkum me\u00f0an \u00fe\u00e6r eru \u00e1fram \u00ed f\u00e9lagslega heiminum og \u00e6ttu \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vera dregnar inn \u00ed verksmi\u00f0jur e\u00f0a skrifstofur. \u00deetta finnst m\u00e9r b\u00e6\u00f0i afar heimskulegt og eins rangt og \u00fea\u00f0 g\u00e6ti veri\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er auglj\u00f3s andsta\u00f0a gegn fj\u00f6lskyldunni, sta\u00f0reynd sem hefur gr\u00ed\u00f0arlega \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ingu fyrir n\u00faverandi faraldur r\u00f3tleysis, t\u00f3mleika, tilgangsleysis og (\u00f3hj\u00e1kv\u00e6milega) ge\u00f0sj\u00fakd\u00f3ma. \u00cd s\u00f3s\u00edal\u00edsku r\u00edki, e\u00f0a heimi \u00f3hefts kap\u00edtalisma, \u201eframlei\u00f0ir konan sem helgar l\u00edf sitt a\u00f0 mestu leyti \u00e1st, umhyggju og st\u00f6\u00f0ugleika ekkert.\u201c Viltu tj\u00e1 \u00feig um \u00feetta?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS<\/strong>: \u00deessi hugmynd um framlei\u00f0slu, skilvirkni og \u00e1vinning er mj\u00f6g \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ingarmikil. Betty Friedan kalla\u00f0i heimili\u00f0 \u201e\u00fe\u00e6gilegar fangab\u00fa\u00f0ir\u201c sem konur ver\u00f0a a\u00f0 fl\u00fdja \u00far svo \u00fe\u00e6r geti lifa\u00f0 \u201eafkastamiklu\u201c l\u00edfi, eins og karlar, unni\u00f0 utan heimilisins. Vinna var augl\u00fdst sem lei\u00f0 til bj\u00f6rgunar kvenna. \u201eVinnan mun frelsa \u00feig\u201c var ekki lengur bara slagor\u00f0 nasista \u00ed \u00fatr\u00fdmingarb\u00fa\u00f0um; Friedan breytti vinnunni \u00ed femin\u00edska gervitr\u00fa. Me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed vi\u00f0horfi hafa konur fl\u00fai\u00f0 heimili\u00f0 og aflei\u00f0ingarnar fyrir fj\u00f6lskylduna, eins og \u00fe\u00fa bendir \u00e1, hafa veri\u00f0 \u00f3tr\u00falega ska\u00f0legar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Konur eru vissulega f\u00e6rar um alls kyns vinnu. \u00dea\u00f0 sem \u00fearf er hins vegar ekki meiri \u00e1hersla \u00e1 starfsferil og framlei\u00f0ni utan heimilisins, heldur \u00e1 m\u00f3\u00f0urhlutverki\u00f0. Vi\u00f0 ver\u00f0um a\u00f0 endurvekja skilning \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ir a\u00f0 vera m\u00f3\u00f0ir, sem fer langt \u00fat fyrir a\u00f0 f\u00e6\u00f0a b\u00f6rn l\u00edkamlega. M\u00f3\u00f0urhlutverki\u00f0 \u2013 a\u00f0 annast, n\u00e6ra og skapa r\u00fdmi fyrir a\u00f0ra til a\u00f0 vaxa \u2013 er sannarlega fallegt og grundvallarverkefni. Vi\u00f0 t\u00f6kum eftir \u00fev\u00ed, kannski hva\u00f0 mest \u00feegar \u00fea\u00f0 skortir, eins og vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1um n\u00fana me\u00f0 mikilli aukningu pers\u00f3nuleikar\u00f6skunar \u00ed flokki B, mikilli aukningu kv\u00ed\u00f0a og \u00feunglyndis og dj\u00fapt sundra\u00f0ra fj\u00f6lskyldna okkar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M\u00e9r finnst hugmyndin um \u201everndara fri\u00f0arins\u201c fr\u00e1b\u00e6r. Konur hafa getu til a\u00f0 vera me\u00f0limir fri\u00f0ar, en einnig til a\u00f0 mi\u00f0la honum til annarra. \u00deetta er \u00fea\u00f0 sem m\u00e6\u00f0ur gera \u00feegar \u00fe\u00e6r rugga b\u00f6rnum s\u00ednum og r\u00f3a \u00feau. En \u00fea\u00f0 n\u00e6r langt \u00fat fyrir leiksk\u00f3la og inn \u00e1 sta\u00f0i \u00fear sem heilbrig\u00f0ar konur finnast. \u00dea\u00f0 er d\u00e1samlegt a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 h\u00e6fa, \u00feroska\u00f0a og skipulag\u00f0a konu tengjast \u00f6\u00f0rum; h\u00fan er andst\u00e6\u00f0a flestra samt\u00edmakvenna (the Karens or Affluent White Female Liberals) sem hrj\u00e1 okkur \u00ed dag me\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfsr\u00e9ttl\u00e6tingu og tilfinningalega \u00f3st\u00f6\u00f0ugri sundrungu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: Eins og \u00fe\u00fa veist tel \u00e9g a\u00f0 undirliggjandi ors\u00f6k svokalla\u00f0rar \u201emetakrisu\u201c okkar s\u00e9 s\u00fa lei\u00f0 hvernig vi\u00f0 skiljum \u2013 e\u00f0a \u00f6llu heldur misskiljum \u2013 hva\u00f0 manneskja er, hva\u00f0 heimurinn er og hva\u00f0 vi\u00f0 erum a\u00f0 gera h\u00e9r. \u00c9g tel a\u00f0 s\u00fdn okkar s\u00e9 dj\u00fapt skekkt af yfirr\u00e1\u00f0um vinstri heilahvelsins \u00e1 veruleikanum, \u00fear sem \u00fea\u00f0 eina sem skiptir m\u00e1li er a\u00f0 \u00f6\u00f0last meira \u2013 meira d\u00f3t og meira vald \u2013 hva\u00f0 sem \u00fea\u00f0 kann a\u00f0 kosta. Fyrir \u00feessa gr\u00f3fu og algj\u00f6rlega fr\u00e6\u00f0ilegu heimsmynd eru hugt\u00f6k og kenningar mikilv\u00e6gari en l\u00edf sem hefur r\u00e6tur og l\u00edkama. \u00deessi \u00fatbrei\u00f0sla \u00f3hlutbundinna kennisetninga og fr\u00e6\u00f0a er ein \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a \u00feess a\u00f0 fem\u00edn\u00edsk rit eru, eins og \u00fe\u00fa bendir \u00e1, svo erfi\u00f0 aflestrar. \u00cd leit a\u00f0 markmi\u00f0um s\u00ednum erum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 horfa \u00e1 geldingu huga og l\u00edkama; sm\u00e6ttun allra gilda \u00ed vald; vanr\u00e6kslu \u00e1 \u00feeim styrk sem kemur a\u00f0eins \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed sem l\u00edtur \u00e1 yfirbor\u00f0inu \u00fat eins og varnarleysi (aftur fyrir b\u00e6\u00f0i kynin). Vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1um ekki karla og konur sem tengslaverur og tv\u00ed\u00fe\u00e6ttar \u2013 \u00feannig a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 breyta einum breytir \u00f3hj\u00e1kv\u00e6milega b\u00e1\u00f0um. \u00c9g held, eins og \u00fe\u00fa, a\u00f0 konur hafi \u00fej\u00e1\u00f0st vegna framfara fem\u00ednisma hva\u00f0 sem \u00fea\u00f0 kostar, og a\u00f0 karlar hafi or\u00f0i\u00f0 verri \u2013 b\u00e6\u00f0i sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r, gagnvart konum og fyrir \u00fe\u00e6r \u2013 vegna framfara fem\u00ednisma. Hva\u00f0a vangaveltur hefur \u00fe\u00fa, ef einhverjar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS<\/strong>: J\u00e1, \u00feetta er \u00ed raun lykilatri\u00f0i a\u00f0 karlar og konur eru sk\u00f6pu\u00f0 til a\u00f0 lifa me\u00f0 og fyrir hvort anna\u00f0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fem\u00ednismi hefur gert sj\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0i kvenna a\u00f0 skur\u00f0go\u00f0i. \u00deetta tengist dj\u00fapt greiningu \u00feinni \u00e1 \u00feeirri st\u00f3r-kreppu (meta-crisis) sem hrj\u00e1ir mannkyni\u00f0. Vald, stj\u00f3rn, fj\u00e1rhagslegt sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6\u00f0i og a\u00f0 lifa \u00e1n fj\u00f6tra fj\u00f6lskyldul\u00edfsins eru allt hluti af \u00feessari leit a\u00f0 meiru. En m\u00f3\u00f0urhlutverki\u00f0, sem er einkennandi fyrir kvenleika, krefst gagnst\u00e6\u00f0rar stefnu gagnvart f\u00f3lkinu \u00ed l\u00edfi okkar: ekki a\u00f0 eignast, heldur a\u00f0 gefa. \u00dea\u00f0 sn\u00fdst um a\u00f0 sty\u00f0ja, n\u00e6ra, halda, hugga. Sj\u00e1lfsgj\u00f6f er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 erfitt a\u00f0 magngreina e\u00f0a m\u00e6la. En raunveruleg gildi \u00feess birtast \u00ed \u00f6ruggu barni sem ver\u00f0ur a\u00f0 heilbrig\u00f0um, virkum fullor\u00f0num, \u00ed fj\u00f6lskyldu og vinum sem finna fyrir \u00e1st, nj\u00f3ta athygli og umhyggju, e\u00f0a jafnvel \u00ed \u00f3kunnugum sem f\u00e1 \u00f3v\u00e6nta en nau\u00f0synlega hl\u00fdju og umhyggju.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fem\u00ednismi hefur einnig valdi\u00f0 k\u00f6rlum dj\u00fapum ska\u00f0a vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00feeir s\u00e6kjast eftir sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6\u00f0i kvenna. \u00deetta hefur a\u00f0 mestu leyti gert gjafir karla anna\u00f0 hvort \u00f3\u00fearfar e\u00f0a dj\u00fapt vanmetnar. Mikilv\u00e6gar og einstakar gjafir karla til a\u00f0 vernda og sj\u00e1 fyrir \u00feeim sem eru vi\u00f0kv\u00e6mir hafa a\u00f0 mestu veri\u00f0 hafna\u00f0 og v\u00edsa\u00f0 fr\u00e1, sem skilur svo marga eftir grama, tilgangslausa og leitandi a\u00f0 uppfyllingu \u00e1 r\u00f6ngum st\u00f6\u00f0um. Vi\u00f0urkenning \u00e1 \u00feeim einst\u00f6ku gj\u00f6fum sem karlar hafa og vilja nota myndi hj\u00e1lpa miki\u00f0 til vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 gr\u00e6\u00f0a s\u00edvaxandi gj\u00e1na milli karla og kvenna. K\u00f6rlum og konum var aldrei \u00e6tla\u00f0 a\u00f0 vera \u00ed samkeppni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: M\u00e9r fannst fr\u00e1s\u00f6gn \u00fe\u00edn af \u00f3venjulegum pers\u00f3nuleika h\u00e1v\u00e6rustu talsmanna \u00ed s\u00f6gu fem\u00ednisma heillandi. \u00de\u00fa finnur \u00ed raun \u00fea\u00f0 sem ge\u00f0l\u00e6knar \u00feekkja sem \u201eja\u00f0arpers\u00f3nuleikar\u00f6skun\u201c \u00ed m\u00f6rgum pers\u00f3num. \u00deessi r\u00f6skun einkennist af tilfinningalegum \u00f3st\u00f6\u00f0ugleika, tv\u00edr\u00e6\u00f0ni \u00ed vi\u00f0horfum til kynl\u00edfs, \u00e1tr\u00f6skunum, sj\u00e1lfsska\u00f0a og sj\u00e1lfsdramatiseringu, sem og \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 taka upp hlutverk hins s\u00edfellda f\u00f3rnarlambs. (Oft voru tilvikin sem \u00fe\u00fa l\u00fdsir me\u00f0 afbrotamennsku og stj\u00f3rns\u00f6mum m\u00e6\u00f0rum.) Getur\u00f0u sagt a\u00f0eins meira um \u00feetta &#8211; og um f\u00f3rnarlambsd\u00fdrkunina \u00ed fem\u00ednisma?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS<\/strong>: \u00deessi \u00fe\u00e1ttur ranns\u00f3knar minnar var sannarlega heillandi. \u00cd fyrri b\u00f3k minni, The End of Woman, skr\u00e1\u00f0i \u00e9g \u00feetta mynstur me\u00f0al flestra fem\u00edn\u00edskra lei\u00f0toga, byrjandi \u00e1 fem\u00edn\u00edskri \u00f6mmu, Mary Wollstonecraft. Mynstri\u00f0 kom enn sk\u00fdrar fram \u00ed Something Wicked. \u00dev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur, vegna pl\u00e1ssleysis, gat \u00e9g ekki f\u00e6rt inn nokkur af algengustu mynstrunum sem \u00e9g s\u00e1 me\u00f0al fyrstu bylgju fem\u00ednista. Til d\u00e6mis \u00e1ttu flestar einhvers konar sviksaman f\u00f6\u00f0ur sem s\u00f3a\u00f0i au\u00f0\u00e6fum og g\u00f3\u00f0u mannor\u00f0i fj\u00f6lskyldunnar, e\u00f0a sem var \u00f3tr\u00far, ofbeldisfullur e\u00f0a drykkfelldur. Stundum var hann allt \u00feetta, eins og fe\u00f0ur Mary Wollstonecraft og Simone de Beauvoir voru. M\u00e6\u00f0urnar brug\u00f0ust vi\u00f0 anna\u00f0 hvort me\u00f0 algj\u00f6ru a\u00f0ger\u00f0aleysi e\u00f0a me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 stj\u00f3rna e\u00f0a hreinsa upp \u00f3rei\u00f0u eiginmanna sinna.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfs\u00f6g\u00f0u v\u00e6rir\u00f0u miklu betri \u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e1tta \u00feig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 raunverulega er a\u00f0 gerast \u00ed huga \u00feessara kvenna, en \u00e9g fann eitthva\u00f0 sem Fanny Wright, fem\u00ednisti \u00e1 fyrstu stigum, skrifa\u00f0i um, af s\u00e9rst\u00f6ku inns\u00e6i . H\u00fan var\u00f0 muna\u00f0arlaus sem barn og eftir a\u00f0 hafa veri\u00f0 f\u00e6r\u00f0 \u00e1 milli fj\u00f6lskylda \u00ed m\u00f6rg \u00e1r skrifa\u00f0i h\u00fan (og \u00e9g er a\u00f0 umor\u00f0a) a\u00f0 h\u00fan \u00e6tla\u00f0i a\u00f0 gefa sig hugmyndum \u00ed sta\u00f0 f\u00f3lks. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki erfitt a\u00f0 \u00edmynda s\u00e9r a\u00f0 Fanny e\u00f0a einhver \u00feessara kvenna, vegna foreldra sinna (e\u00f0a skorts \u00e1 \u00feeim), vilji eitthva\u00f0 traust og verndandi. A\u00f0 m\u00f6rgu leyti er \u00fea\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 sem fem\u00ednismi er talinn bj\u00f3\u00f0a upp \u00e1: lei\u00f0 til a\u00f0 vernda sig fyrir hvers kyns varnarleysi sem kemur fr\u00e1 pers\u00f3nulegum samskiptum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00deessi broth\u00e6tta tilfinning sem finnst hj\u00e1 n\u00e1nast \u00f6llum fem\u00edn\u00edskum lei\u00f0togum af hva\u00f0a bylgju sem er hefur veri\u00f0 notu\u00f0 b\u00e6\u00f0i til a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 \u00fatr\u00fdma varnarleysi, svo sem til a\u00f0 \u201estj\u00f3rna\u201c frj\u00f3semi okkar, og til a\u00f0 smyrja konur me\u00f0 upphafinni st\u00f6\u00f0u f\u00f3rnarlambs. \u00deessi n\u00fdja og ford\u00e6malausa sta\u00f0a &#8211; sem a\u00f0 mestu leyti stafar af si\u00f0fer\u00f0ilegu t\u00f3mar\u00fami sem skapa\u00f0ist vegna taps \u00e1 kristnu si\u00f0fer\u00f0i og grundvallarfyrirm\u00e6lum eins og Bo\u00f0or\u00f0unum t\u00edu &#8211; hefur or\u00f0i\u00f0 lei\u00f0arlj\u00f3s si\u00f0fer\u00f0isins fyrir marga. Hin h\u00e1a sta\u00f0a f\u00f3rnarlambs hefur einnig vari\u00f0 fem\u00ednisma fyrir raunverulegri sko\u00f0un. \u00deeir sem draga hana \u00ed efa eru strax saka\u00f0ir um a\u00f0 vilja ekki hj\u00e1lpa konum og eru einhvern veginn \u00f3tr\u00fair m\u00e1lsta\u00f0num, eins og van\u00feakkl\u00e1tar d\u00e6tur sem sv\u00edkja yfir\u00feyrmandi m\u00f3\u00f0ur s\u00edna.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: A\u00f0 lokum, viltu segja eitthva\u00f0 um oft brengla\u00f0a framsetningu \u00e1 hlutverki karlsins? Karlar eru einfaldlega litnir \u00e1 sem k\u00fagarar sem nj\u00f3ta \u00feess a\u00f0 vera \u00ed au\u00f0veldu hlutverki \u00ed l\u00edfinu. \u00deetta l\u00edtur \u00fat fyrir a\u00f0 vera svipa\u00f0 og marxismi og a\u00f0rar kenningar \u00fear sem a\u00f0eins eru k\u00fagarar og f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mb. Hva\u00f0a hlutverki gegnir dulspekin (hj\u00e1fr\u00e6\u00f0in &#8211; occult) \u00ed a\u00f0 andm\u00e6la \u201efe\u00f0raveldinu\u201c? Og heldur\u00f0u a\u00f0 fem\u00ednismi megi a\u00f0 einhverju leyti \u00feakka fyrri velgengni sinni aukinni l\u00f6ngun kvenna til a\u00f0l\u00f6gunar \u2013 jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt a\u00f0l\u00f6gunin s\u00e9 \u00ed \u00e1tt til hins upphaflega n\u00fdja sj\u00f3narhorns?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS<\/strong>: \u00deetta m\u00e1lefni karla er mj\u00f6g mikilv\u00e6gt. Fr\u00e1 upphafi hefur fem\u00ednismi fyrirliti\u00f0 karla og hina skipulegu n\u00e1lgun \u00feeirra og formlegu lei\u00f0 \u00feeirra til a\u00f0 eiga samskipti vi\u00f0 heiminn. Jafnr\u00e9ttishugsj\u00f3nir fem\u00ednista reyna a\u00f0 fletja stigveldi \u00fat \u2013 nema \u00feegar \u00feau \u00fej\u00f3na \u00fe\u00f6rfum kvenna, eins og stigveldi fyrirt\u00e6kja e\u00f0a stj\u00f3rnvalda. Miki\u00f0 af eldsneyti fem\u00ednismans var og er enn fr\u00e1 hugmyndafr\u00e6\u00f0ilegri tr\u00fa \u00e1 jafnr\u00e9tti. Markmi\u00f0i\u00f0 er a\u00f0 hrifsa vald og stj\u00f3rn fr\u00e1 k\u00f6rlum, sem liggur \u00ed  hugmyndinni um a\u00f0 brj\u00f3ta ni\u00f0ur fe\u00f0raveldi\u00f0, sem er enn svo algeng \u00ed dag og allt sn\u00fdst um. \u00dea\u00f0 sem hefur veri\u00f0 gleymt er a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 eru kostir \u2013 sem flestir eru hunsa\u00f0ir \u2013 fyrir konur sem koma fr\u00e1 \u00feeirri reglu sem fe\u00f0raveldi\u00f0 f\u00e6rir me\u00f0 s\u00e9r, svo sem innvi\u00f0ir, skilvirkt og skilvirkt skipulag og \u00f6rugg samf\u00e9l\u00f6g sem gera konum kleift a\u00f0 lifa almennt \u00e1n \u00f3tta vi\u00f0 gl\u00e6pi, \u00e6ttb\u00e1lka\u00e1t\u00f6k e\u00f0a a\u00f0 vera sem lausaf\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hva\u00f0 var\u00f0ar h\u00e9giljur, \u00fe\u00e1 er fyrsta bylgjan full af konum sem t\u00f3ku \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00ed starfi mi\u00f0la, mi\u00f0ilsfunda og \u00ed g\u00f6ldrum. Lengi hefur veri\u00f0 s\u00fa hugmynd a\u00f0 \u00feessar d\u00f6kku listir s\u00e9u lei\u00f0 til valda fyrir konur. S\u00fa tr\u00fa er enn til sta\u00f0ar \u00ed dag, sem s\u00e9st \u00e1 aukinni fj\u00f6lgun galdra \u00e1 Vesturl\u00f6ndum. Fj\u00f6ldi kvenna og karla sem stunda galdra er n\u00fa meiri en \u00ed sumum helstu m\u00f3tm\u00e6lendakirkjudeildum, eins og t.d. \u00d6ldungakirkjunni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hva\u00f0 var\u00f0ar a\u00f0l\u00f6gun, \u00fe\u00e1 er einn af \u00feeim \u00fe\u00e1ttum sem \u00e9g sko\u00f0a \u00ed Something Wicked \u201ehin r\u00f3mant\u00edska lygi\u201c, hugtak fr\u00e1 heimspekingnum Ren\u00e9 Girard. R\u00f3mant\u00edska lygin er s\u00fa tr\u00fa a\u00f0 \u00e1kvar\u00f0anir okkar s\u00e9u teknar sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6tt og \u00f3h\u00e1\u00f0ar utana\u00f0komandi \u00f6flum. Raunveruleikinn er allt annar. T\u00f6kum til d\u00e6mis t\u00edskuheiminn. Konur l\u00edta almennt \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 kl\u00e6\u00f0ast t\u00edskufatna\u00f0i sem j\u00e1kv\u00e6tt t\u00e1kn, en horfa fram hj\u00e1 a\u00f0l\u00f6guninni sem \u00fearf til a\u00f0 vera st\u00edlhrein, eins og l\u00edtill \u00farvalsh\u00f3pur sem h\u00f6nnu\u00f0ir st\u00fdra. Hi\u00f0 sama \u00e1 vi\u00f0 um hugmyndir. \u00dea\u00f0 eru til t\u00edskuhugmyndir. Flest okkar gera s\u00e9r ekki grein fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hugmyndir okkar eru ekki eins frumlegar og vi\u00f0 h\u00f6ldum heldur eru \u00fe\u00e6r einungis \u00ed samr\u00e6mi vi\u00f0 einhverja eftirl\u00edkingu e\u00f0a von um upphafningu. \u00deetta \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ir ekki a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 h\u00f6fum ekki frj\u00e1lsan vilja, en vilji okkar er miklu frj\u00e1lsari \u00feegar vi\u00f0 skiljum hvernig samf\u00e9lagi\u00f0 hefur \u00e1hrif \u00e1 okkur og hvetur okkur til a\u00f0 a\u00f0lagast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d3samr\u00e6mi hefur veri\u00f0 a\u00f0alsmerki \u00ed s\u00f6lur\u00e6\u00f0u fem\u00ednisma. Fem\u00ednismi vill ekkert hafa me\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 gera a\u00f0 konur a\u00f0lagist hlutverkum sem eru \u00ed samr\u00e6mi vi\u00f0 e\u00f0lisl\u00e6gan mun \u00feeirra \u00e1 k\u00f6rlum. Hugsi\u00f0 um or\u00f0 eins og \u201ekonur sem heg\u00f0a s\u00e9r vel skrifa sjaldan s\u00f6gu.\u201c A\u00f0dr\u00e1ttarafl galdra og dulspeki vir\u00f0ist einnig stafa af yfirl\u00e6ti sem neitar a\u00f0 a\u00f0lagast kristninni. Jafnvel s\u00fa W\u00f3ke-lega hugmynd a\u00f0 finna sitt raunverulegasta l\u00edf er t\u00edskufyrirbrig\u00f0i. \u00dea\u00f0 er kaldh\u00e6\u00f0nislegt a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 sitjum uppi me\u00f0 spurningar um hvort \u00fea\u00f0 geti enn talist a\u00f0 einhver s\u00e9  \u201e\u00f3h\u00e1\u00f0ur\u201c sem svo fylgir einfaldlega svok\u00f6llu\u00f0um &#8220;\u00f3h\u00e1\u00f0um&#8221; straumi. \u00cd vi\u00f0leitni sinni til a\u00f0 a\u00f0lagast ekki hafa konur vali\u00f0 a\u00f0ra tegund af a\u00f0l\u00f6gun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ein af \u00e1s\u00f6kunum sem \u00e9g hef heyrt nokkrum sinnum er a\u00f0 \u00e9g s\u00e9 einfaldlega a\u00f0 sp\u00faa \u00fat hugmyndum fr\u00e1 kristnu uppeldi m\u00ednu, a\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi veri\u00f0 heila\u00fevegin af kristnum \u00f6ldungum. \u00dea\u00f0 f\u00e6r mig alltaf til a\u00f0 hl\u00e6gja \u00fev\u00ed hugmyndir \u00e6sku minnar voru mj\u00f6g m\u00f3ta\u00f0ar af fem\u00edn\u00edskum anda. Lei\u00f0in fr\u00e1 fem\u00ednisma var l\u00f6ng og \u00f3kortl\u00f6g\u00f0; \u00e9g \u00feurfti a\u00f0 sl\u00edta sambandi vi\u00f0 flesta jafnaldra m\u00edna \u2013 veraldlega og tr\u00faa\u00f0a \u2013 til a\u00f0 komast a\u00f0 sannleikanum um hann.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c9g var n\u00fdlega spur\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed hvernig heimurinn g\u00e6ti liti\u00f0 \u00fat \u00e1n fem\u00ednisma. \u00c9g haf\u00f0i aldrei \u00edmynda\u00f0 m\u00e9r \u00feann heim \u00ed raun og veru, en samt er \u00f3tr\u00falegt a\u00f0 hugsa um \u00fea\u00f0 hvernig hann geti liti\u00f0 \u00fat (spurningin f\u00e9kk mig reyndar til a\u00f0 t\u00e1rast). \u00cdmynda\u00f0u \u00fe\u00e9r ef vi\u00f0 g\u00e6tum breytt \u00feeirri h\u00f6rku sem konur beita \u00ed bar\u00e1ttu sinni fyrir f\u00f3sturey\u00f0ingum \u00ed \u00f6fluga einbeitni til a\u00f0 annast b\u00f6rn s\u00edn. \u00cdmynda\u00f0u \u00fe\u00e9r karla og konur vinna saman \u00e1 n\u00fd, vega og meta einstaka h\u00e6fileika s\u00edna, \u00ed \u00fe\u00e1gu sameiginlegra hagsmuna fj\u00f6lskyldna sinna. \u00c9g hef veri\u00f0 gift \u00ed n\u00e6stum 18 \u00e1r og vi\u00f0urkenni f\u00faslega a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er ekkert \u00fat\u00f3p\u00edskt vi\u00f0 hj\u00f3naband: fj\u00f6lskyldul\u00edf krefst alltaf \u00fej\u00e1ningar og f\u00f3rna. Munurinn kemur \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 tilgang \u00ed s\u00e1rsauka, meiri langt\u00edmag\u00e6\u00f0i \u00ed seinku\u00f0um uppfyllingum \u00f3ska og sterkari, hamingjusamari fj\u00f6lskyldu me\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfsf\u00f3rnum. \u00c9g hugsa um sterkar konur, sem eru hollar eiginm\u00f6nnum s\u00ednum og afar hollar b\u00f6rnum s\u00ednum. \u00c9g hugsa um karla me\u00f0 hugrekki og einbeitingu, sta\u00f0r\u00e1\u00f0na \u00ed a\u00f0 gera hva\u00f0 sem \u00fearf til a\u00f0 vernda og sj\u00e1 fyrir \u00feeim. \u00c9g hugsa um d\u00e6tur, sem foreldrar sem vernda reisn \u00feeirra og kvenleika, annast, og syni sem vita innilega a\u00f0 \u00feeir eiga gott og mikilv\u00e6gt verkefni \u00ed l\u00edfinu. \u00deessi framt\u00ed\u00f0ars\u00fdn getur aldrei lofa\u00f0 fullkomnun, en \u00fea\u00f0 ver\u00f0ur markmi\u00f0, tilgangur, eitthva\u00f0 sem er \u00feess vir\u00f0i a\u00f0 s\u00e6kjast eftir og stefna a\u00f0 \u2013 ekki einangra\u00f0, heldur saman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Karlar og konur voru ger\u00f0 \u00f3l\u00edk en samt sem \u00e1\u00f0ur til a\u00f0 vera hvort \u00f6\u00f0ru eflandi. Ef vi\u00f0 h\u00e6ttum endalausri leit a\u00f0 einsleitni, \u00f3framkv\u00e6manlegri (og \u00f3e\u00f0lilegri) hugsj\u00f3n um jafnr\u00e9tti sem fem\u00ednismi hefur vaki\u00f0 upp um aldir, og skiptum \u00feessu \u00fat fyrir veruleikann, getur eitthva\u00f0 fallegt gerst.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST<\/strong>: \u00deakka \u00fe\u00e9r k\u00e6rlega fyrir lj\u00f3si\u00f0 sem \u00fe\u00fa hefur varpa\u00f0 \u00e1 m\u00e1lefni sem er afar mikilv\u00e6gt \u00ed n\u00fat\u00edma vestr\u00e6nu samf\u00e9lagi. \u00dea\u00f0 sem er lj\u00f3st af verkum \u00fe\u00ednum er a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa metur \u00e1rangur frelsunar kvenna mikils, en telur a\u00f0 fem\u00ednismi s\u00e9 n\u00fa or\u00f0inn ey\u00f0ileggjandi afl sem hefur tilhneigingu til a\u00f0 k\u00faga b\u00e6\u00f0i konur og karla, frekar en a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa hvorum fyrir sig a\u00f0 uppfylla s\u00ednar bestu hli\u00f0ar. \u00c9g \u00f3ska \u00fe\u00e9r alls hins besta me\u00f0 n\u00fdjustu b\u00f3k \u00fe\u00edna, Something Wicked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>ENSKI TEXTINN:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Feminism and beyond: Carrie Gress&#8217;s fascinating new book, Something Wicked<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I was privileged to be able to read Carrie Gress\u2019s new book prior to publication (it will be available to the public&nbsp;from 20 January). I found it absorbing and learnt a lot from it. Until recently feminism was one of the many controversial doctrines about which controversy was not permitted. Anyone not giving unthinking and unqualified consent to whatever form it took \u2013 and its demands have naturally, as with all such movements, become ever more insistent \u2013 was beyond the pale. That is now changing, and this book deserves to be widely read. Whether you agree with her or not, she raises some important questions which cannot continue to be ignored.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I interviewed her for this blog.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The Matter with Things is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a class=\"button subscribe-btn primary\" href=\"https:\/\/substack.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.w7fIxmPdrgN9w_tTlo_hTxfdlr6rUTdlxBFKFDqyubA?&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_source=subscribe-widget-preamble&amp;utm_content=184314675\">Upgrade to paid<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:<\/strong>&nbsp;Carrie, I found your book&nbsp;<em>Something Wicked<\/em>&nbsp;both powerful and wise. Your critical stance on feminism is rapidly gaining ground, as the pre-publication reception of your book suggests, but is still unusual. Can you tell us what drove you to write this book?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS:<\/strong>&nbsp;Thankfully, these ideas are catching on, particularly compared to ten years ago when I started writing on this topic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There were several reasons why I wrote this book. The first is obvious, when you look around at women today and recognize the deep damage done by feminism. We see it in violence, brokenness, the war between the sexes, mental illness, and so on. These are its bad fruits, the natural progression of an inherently distorted and distorting ideology.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">More specifically, I wrote this book because Christianity offers an antidote to the feminist ideology, although many inside the Church have come to believe that, somehow, the two can be compatible. In fact, the regnant belief among many Catholics and mainline Protestants has been that, by integrating the language of feminism into our communities, we will either attract or convert feminists while also helping our own women. The results, however, have been the opposite. Feminism has infected Christianity, sowing deep confusion about womanhood, marriage, family, children, and sexuality. Feminism, meanwhile, has been left largely unscrutinized and unaffected even as it systematically corrupts one family or one faith community at a time. The very thing that has the capacity to clarify and eradicate the feminist ideology\u2013the truth of Christianity\u2013has been silenced, and the Church has been hijacked to spread the deeply anti-Christian ideology. This book, then, shines a spotlight on why the two are deeply incompatible philosophically and theologically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:&nbsp;<\/strong>What would you say to people who say<strong>&nbsp;<\/strong>that it is not surprising that feminism and Christianity conflict, since Christianity embodies an outmoded ethos?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS:&nbsp;<\/strong>For centuries, the West has toyed with a wide array of leftist and utopian ideologies to refashion man into something unrecognizable to Christianity. Feminism is fundamentally just another flavor of this godless egalitarianism. The result has been that women are deeply unhappy, evidenced by measures of happiness, such as increased divorce rates, suicides, depression, substance abuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Remarkably, for all the advances that feminism was supposed to fix, the basic complaints of its earliest adherents are still of issue: men have not been made better; women haven\u2019t been protected from violence nor have they become more virtuous, loving, or charitable; children are not better appreciated or cared for. Certainly, shifts in laws and policies were important, but feminism is an ideology tethered to the idea that women will be happier the more they become like men. Feminism has, all along, been the wrong medicine for what ails women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now that seemingly every alternative to Christianity has been tried, many are looking to the past, to see what has the capacity to form flourishing societies. The old ways, long regarded as superstitious, weak, or backward thinking, are being dusted off and looked at afresh. What if there was something to Christianity after all? There has, in fact, been no greater force for women than Christianity because of the way it imparted equal dignity to women, overturning the ruthless pagan ethos where women were chattel. We can see paganism resurfacing today as it always does when Christianity wanes \u2013 things we could scarcely have considered two or three decades ago are now becoming common place, like the international sex slave trade, targeting specifically women and children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:&nbsp;<\/strong>It seems to me that in our age there is a war on the body and on nature. As part of this, we are now encouraged to disregard the role of biological inheritance, and pretend that reality is whatever we want to make it, despite the obvious lack of evidence for any such idea. All is said to be merely the product of social conditioning. We are, or should be, \u2018free\u2019, it is said, as though the idea of freedom here were transparent. Is embodiment a freedom or a constraint on the human condition? Of course there are many constraints on all of us. Would it be better if there really were no constraints? We neglect the role played by boundaries in the founding of all true freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS:&nbsp;<\/strong>One of my favorite ways to think about this question of freedom and human nature comes from sports. If you take away the tennis net and court, you don\u2019t really have a tennis match anymore. The net and court (and the corresponding rules about them) provide boundaries in which the game comes alive. Simply banging a tennis ball around on an open lawn can never have the same excitement as when the game is played properly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Similarly, human nature provides boundaries for human flourishing, boundaries that come from our human nature\u2014both as rational and embodied\u2014and from the roles that naturally spring from that nature. These boundaries aren\u2019t merely societal constraints or social constructs. I cannot imagine any healthy person would say, for example, that the elimination of boundaries, particularly sexual boundaries such as those against paedophilia and sex trafficking, would be freeing or good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Feminism is deeply entrenched in a war with nature. We are instructed to battle against our own bodies, starting with our fertility. Because our biology makes us naturally vulnerable, we believe that we will be happier if only we can be more like men. This hostile belief has extended, logically, to gender transitioning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:<\/strong>&nbsp;Evolution is more careful of women than men: it takes more risks with the male phenotype than the female, since, as far as furtherance of the species goes, men are more expendable than women. (This lies behind a phenomenon called \u2018greater male variability\u2019.) Women are more important to the development of the young, at least in the early stages, into secure, well-socialised adults. Women are, by and large, the purveyors of social cohesion. In Anglo-Saxon, the word for a woman meant the \u2018guardian of the peace\u2019. Why is this not properly valued?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It seems to me that this has to do with a world where the ideology of capitalism or communism \u2013 for both are culpable \u2013 is unbridled. In each \u2018system\u2019 women supposedly contribute nothing while they remain in the social world and should be dragooned into the factory or office. This seems to me both grievously stupid and about as wrong as it could be. There is an obvious antagonism towards the family, a fact of huge significance for the current epidemic of rootlessness, emptiness, purposelessness and (inevitably) mental illness. In a socialist state, or the world of unbridled capitalism, the woman who dedicates her life largely to love, nurturing and stability \u2018produces nothing.\u2019 Would you like to comment on this?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS:&nbsp;<\/strong>This idea about production, efficiency, and gain is very significant. Betty Friedan called the home a \u201ccomfortable concentration camp\u201d from which women must escape so that they can lead a \u201cproductive\u201d life, like men, working outside the home. Work was touted as the means of women\u2019s salvation. \u201cWork will set you free\u201d was no longer just a Nazi death-camp slogan; Friedan turned work into feminism\u2019s pseudo-religious rite. With that attitude, women have fled the home, and the ramifications on the family, as you note, have been incredibly damaging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Women are certainly capable of all kinds of work. What is needed, however, isn\u2019t more focus on career and outside productivity, but on motherhood. We must restore a sense of what it means to be a mother, which goes well beyond just physically bearing children. Mothering\u2013caring for, nurturing, and cultivating space for others to grow\u2013is a truly beautiful and fundamental task. We notice its significance perhaps most dramatically when it is absent, as we see now with the sharp rise in Cluster B personality disorders, the steep increase in anxiety and depression, and our deeply fractured families.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I love that idea of the \u201cguardian of the peace.\u201d Women have the capacity for embodying peace, but also for spreading it to others. This is the swaying and soothing mothers do for their children. But it goes well beyond children\u2019s nurseries and into the places wherever healthy women are found. It is a wonderful thing to see a capable, mature, ordered woman engage others; she is the antithesis of most contemporary women (the Karens or Affluent White Female Liberals) who plague us today with self-righteousness and emotionally unhinged divisiveness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:&nbsp;<\/strong>As you know, I believe an underlying cause of our so-called \u2018metacrisis\u2019 is the way we understand \u2013 or rather, misunderstand \u2013 what a human being is, what the world is, and what we are doing here. I believe our vision is deeply skewed by the dominance of the left hemisphere\u2019s view of reality, in which the only thing that matters is the acquisition of&nbsp;<em>more<\/em>&nbsp;\u2013 more stuff, and more power \u2013 whatever the cost might be. To this crude and purely theoretical world-picture, concepts and dogmas are more important than embedded, and embodied, life. This prevalence of abstract doctrines and dogmas is one reason why feminist writing is, as you point out, so hard to read. In the pursuit of its aims, we are watching the neutering of the mind and body; the reduction of all values to power; neglect of that strength that comes only in what looks superficially like vulnerability (again for&nbsp;<em>both<\/em>sexes). We fail to see men and women as relational and dyadic \u2013 so that changing one inevitably changes both. I think, like you, that women have suffered through the advancement of feminism at all costs, and that men have become worse \u2013 both in and for themselves, and in and for women \u2013 through the advances of feminism. What are your reflections, if any?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS:&nbsp;<\/strong>Yes, this is really a crucial point that men and women are made to live with and for each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Feminism has made women\u2019s autonomy an idol. This is deeply connected with your diagnosis of the meta-crisis plaguing humanity. Power, control, financial independence, and living without the constraints of family life are all part of this grasping at more. But motherhood, which is a defining characteristic of womanhood, requires the opposite orientation towards the people in our lives: not acquiring, but giving. It is about supporting, nourishing, holding, comforting. Self-giving is, of course, difficult to quantify or measure. But it\u2019s true value is seen in the securely attached child who becomes a healthy, functioning adult, in family and friends who feel loved, seen, and cared for, or even in strangers who receive unexpected but needed warmth and care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Feminism has also deeply damaged men because of the grasping at female autonomy. This largely has rendered the gifts that men have as either unnecessary or deeply devalued. Men\u2019s important and unique gifts to protect and provide for those who are vulnerable have been largely rebuffed and rejected, leaving so many resentful, purposeless, and looking for fulfilment in the wrong places. A recognition of the remarkable gifts that men have and want to use would go a long way in healing the ever-widening rift between men and women. Being male and female was never meant to be a competition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:&nbsp;<\/strong>I found your account of the unusual personalities of the most vocal advocates in the history of feminism fascinating. You essentially find what are known to psychiatrists as \u2018borderline personality disorder\u2019 traits in many figures. This disorder is characterised by emotional instability, ambivalent attitudes to sex, eating disorders, self-harm, and self-dramatisation, as well as adopting the role of the perpetual victim. (Often the cases you describe had delinquent fathers and controlling mothers.) Can you say a little more about this \u2013 and about the cult of victimhood in feminism?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS:&nbsp;<\/strong>This aspect of my research was truly fascinating. In my previous book,&nbsp;<em>The End of Woman<\/em>,<em>&nbsp;<\/em>I chronicled this pattern among most of the feminist leaders, starting with feminist grandmother, Mary Wollstonecraft. The pattern emerged even more starkly in&nbsp;<em>Something Wicked.<\/em>Unfortunately, because of space issues, I couldn\u2019t include some of the common patterns I saw among the first wave feminists. For example, most had some kind of profligate father who squandered the family\u2019s fortune and good name, or who was unfaithful, abusive or a drunk. Sometimes, he was all of these, as were the fathers of Mary Wollstonecraft and Simone de Beauvoir. The mothers responded either with complete passivity or by trying to control or clean up their husbands\u2019 messes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Certainly, you would be much better at recognizing what is really at play in the minds of these women, but I found something early feminist Fanny Wright wrote particularly insightful. She was orphaned as a child, and after years of being passed around among family, she wrote (and I\u2019m paraphrasing) that she was going to give herself to ideas instead of to people. It isn\u2019t hard to imagine Fanny or any of these women, because of their parents (or lack thereof), wanting something solid and protective. In many respects, that is what feminism is seen to offer: a way to shield oneself from any kind of vulnerability that comes from interpersonal relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This brokenness found among almost all feminist leaders of any wave has been used both to try to eliminate vulnerability, such as in \u201ccontrolling\u201d our fertility, and to anoint women with the exalted status of victimhood. This new and unprecedented status\u2014stemming largely from the moral vacuum created by the loss of Christian morality and basic directives like the Ten Commandments\u2014has become a guiding moral light for many. The high status of victimhood has also shielded feminism from real scrutiny. Those who question it are immediately accused of not wanting to help women and are somehow unfaithful to the cause, like ungrateful daughters who betray their devouring mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:&nbsp;<\/strong>Finally would<strong>&nbsp;<\/strong>you like to say something about the often distorted representation of the man\u2019s role? Men are seen simply as oppressors who enjoy the easy role in life. This looks to me akin to Marxism and other dogmas in which there are only oppressors and victims. What role does the occult play in opposing the \u2018patriarchy\u2019? And do you think feminism owes some of its past success to the greater desire for conformity in women \u2013 even if the conformity is to an initially novel point of view?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>GRESS:&nbsp;<\/strong>This issue of men is a very important. From the start, feminism has held in contempt men and their ordered and ordering way of engaging with the world. Feminists\u2019 egalitarian ideals try to flatten hierarchies\u2014except when they serve the needs of women, like corporate or government hierarchies. Much of feminism\u2019s fuel was and continues to be from an idealized belief in egalitarianism. The goal is to wrest away power and control from men, which is what the notion of smashing the patriarchy, still so common today, is all about. What has been missed is that there are benefits\u2014most of which are glossed over\u2014to women that come from the order that patriarchy brings, such as infrastructure, effective and efficient organization, and safe societies that allow women to live generally without fear of crime, of tribal conflict, or of being chattel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As for the occult, the first wave is rife with women involved in seances, mediums, and witchcraft. There has long been the perception that these dark arts are an avenue for power for women. That belief still exists today, evidenced in the uptick of witchcraft in the West. The numbers of women and men practicing witchcraft now surpasses those in some mainline Protestant denominations, like the Presbyterians.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As for conformity, one of the elements I look at in&nbsp;<em>Something Wicked&nbsp;<\/em>is the \u201cromantic lie,\u201d a term from philosopher Ren\u00e9 Girard. The romantic lie is the belief that our choices are made independently and autonomously, uninfluenced by any outside forces. The reality is much different. For example, consider the world of fashion. Women generally view wearing fashionable apparel as a positive sign, while overlooking the conformity required to be stylish, as dictated by a small and elite group of designers. The same is true of ideas. There are fashionable ideas. Most of us fail to recognize that our ideas aren\u2019t as original as we think but are merely in conformity to some mimetic or aspirational ideal. This isn\u2019t to say that we don\u2019t have free will, but our will is much freer when we understand the ways in which we are influenced and encouraged to conform by wider society.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Non-conformity has been a hallmark of feminism\u2019s sales pitch. Feminism wants nothing to do with having women conform to the roles that align with their intrinsic differences from men. Think of lines like \u201cwell behaved women rarely make history.\u201d The allure of witchcraft and the occult also seems to stem from a bravado that refuses to conform to Christianity. Even the woke idea of finding one\u2019s most authentic life is a fashionable fad. Ironically, we\u2019re left wondering whether it can still be considered \u201cnon-conformity\u201d if one merely follows so-called non-conformist trends. In the effort to not conform, women have opted for a different kind of conformity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One of the accusations that I\u2019ve heard a few times is that I\u2019m merely spewing the ideas from my Christian upbringing, that I\u2019ve been brainwashed by Christian elders. It always makes me laugh because the ideas of my youth were very much informed by the feminist ethos. The road away from feminism was a long and uncharted; I had to break with most of my peers\u2014secular and religious\u2014to come to discover the truth about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I was asked recently what the world could look like without feminism. I hadn\u2019t ever really imagined that world, and yet, it is amazing to think about how that can look (the question actually brought tears to my eyes). Imagine if we could redirect the ferocity with which women fight for abortion into an energetic resoluteness to care for their children. Imagine men and women working together again, balancing their unique gifts, for the common good of their families. Having been married for almost 18 years, I readily admit that there is nothing utopian about marriage: family life always requires suffering and sacrifice. The difference comes through seeing purpose in pain, greater long-term goods in delayed gratification, and a stronger, happier family through gifts of self. I think of strong women, committed to their husbands, and fiercely dedicated to their children. I think of men of grit and focus, determined to do whatever it takes to protect and provide. I think of daughters, cared for by parents who shield their dignity and femininity, and sons who know deeply that they have a good and important mission in life. This vision can never promise perfection, but there will be a goal, purpose, something worth pursuing and striving toward\u2014not in isolation, but together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Men and women were made different and, yet, to be complementary. If we abandon the endless striving for sameness, the unattainable (and unnatural) ideal of equality that feminism has stirred up for centuries, and traded these in for reality, something beautiful can happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>McGILCHRIST:&nbsp;<\/strong>Thank you very much for the light you have thrown on a topic of the greatest importance in modern Western society. What is clear from your work is that you value the achievement of the emancipation of women, but believe that feminism has now become a destructive force that tends to oppress women and men alike, rather than helping each to fulfil their complementary nature. I wish you all the very best with your latest book,&nbsp;<em>Something Wicked<\/em>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Er \u00ed lagi a\u00f0 gagnr\u00fdna feminismann? Sett h\u00e9r inn til a\u00f0 kynna \u00feessi sj\u00f3narhorn Carrie Gress \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00e9g taki endilega undir \u00feau \u00f6ll, en hins vegar hefur feminisminn fengi\u00f0 n\u00e1nast fr\u00edtt spil \u00e1n mikillar gagnr\u00fdni undanfarna \u00e1ratugi. 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